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Wednesday, September 06, 2000
too young for children - 07:10 AM
i look very young. i always have. people always think i'm younger than i am. usually it doesn't bother me, it's just a fact of life. the other day though, someone said something, in thinking that i was much younger, that really got to me. she wasn't being nasty or cruel or anything, it was just the topic of the conversation that made her say what she said & the way she said it which really annoyed me.
she came into the shop to pay for petrol or something & she was obviously pregnant. i commented on it & we started talking about pregnancy & children. i said that i was really keen to have kids. she then said, obviously thinking that i was sixteen or some such age, & carrying that tone of motherly advice to the young & inexperienced, "it's a big responsibility you know .." as though i was five & was wanting to get a pet kitten.
i didn't get angry at her or anything, i just politely pointed out that i was way child bearing age & told her my age. she was surprised of course, as people always are. anyway, that was the end of it when she went back to her car & left, but it really got to me. when i do have kids, i can see me walking along with them & people thinking that i'm some single, teenage mother & shaking their heads in pity & shame. maybe i'll have to get "i'm old enough to have children!!" tattooed on my forehead or something .. 
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