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Wednesday, July 16, 2003
panic - 01:40 AM
is there a panic stage in pregnancy? because i think i've hit it. there's a baby inside me due anytime in around eight to ten weeks & i haven't even bought a crib yet. what is to be the baby's room is still full of boxes. there are still boxes of things which have to go into the pantry. i haven't even unpacked all of my own clothes!
we have a housewarming party on in about four weeks, i don't have the spice racks up on the inside of the pantry doors because the combined four rack one is just too large to fit between the shelves, i'm planning on becoming an enjo consultant which requires a lot of work, the car has to be fixed before dad comes back, & this kid is due in about eight weeks.
what the hell am i thinking?
help. shit. can i change my mind? can rudegere stay in longer? i'm not ready!!
help, help, help! there's too much to do between now & then. i haven't even bought any clothes for the kid. is s/he going to have to go around naked once s/he's born? i haven't got a car seat fitted yet! i don't have a sling thing to carry the kid around in! i don't have anything ready! i can't even type this right the first time without putting question marks where there should be exclamation marks! how the hell am i going to look after a baby??!
i want to call my sister to talk to her but i can't because it's past 1:30 in the morning & she has her own family to worry about. i want to talk to shroom but i can't because he's fast asleep & he has to work in the morning & besides, i don't want to worry him. oh geez, my throat is closing up. i think i need a drink of water.
breathe, coralie, breathe. slowly. calm down. breathe.
i was in bed, but i woke up & i was lying there with my eyes open too worried to go back to sleep. i know you'll all give me well-meaning advice & boy do i need it. let's hope by the morning though that i'll realise that eight weeks is a long time & that i'll be able to get everything done in time & suddenly know everything there is about new babies before this one comes out. oh god .. help!!
don't panic overthere!!! get outside, and get some fresh air! you don't have to panic around, everything is gona be o.k.! greetings from edwin
coralie
relaxe everything will be alright
in the end.
take care of yourself and the little one. The house will take care of itsself. If the house is
a little messy for the party that
ok the guest will understand. The most important thing to remember is you and the baby.
take csre of yourself
Bernie
Relax, you are doing fine. Its a lot to take in with moving and the baby at the same time. We just finished our move and I can't find anything, the boys can't play in the basement because its full of boxes of stuff that I don't understand why we just didn't throw out in the first place.
8 weeks will give you lots of time, but it will move by fast. Take a step back and think about what you are going to need right when the baby is born. Is he/she going to be sleeping in a crib or bassinet in your room? You will need a car seat and you can fit it when you first put he/she into it. Being that its winter there, you will need more clothes then what we had, but our babies lived in onesies for the first 3 months (all were born in the summer and that was the coolest for them). Determine how you are going to feed the baby, bottle or breast. If bottle, then you will have to purchase them, sterilize them and get them ready. Other then diapers and you can get those after he/she is born, the hospital will usually give you some, that has always been the case with ours, might be different over there.
Find some time to relax and remember that your nesting will be kicking in with in a couple of weeks and you will tear through getting everything ready. Don't worry if the house isn't right for the house warming, people with just be happy to see you with your lovely baby belly. We are having a birthday party this weekend and we just moved this past Saturday. There are going to be a million boxes everywhere and I doubt that my car will be in the garage yet.
Take care!
Relax sweetie. Two words: baby. shower.
That will give you all the clothes / carriers / diapers / baby knicknacks that you can possible stand for the next six months.
Get hold of your mum or your best girlfriend, and work the system baby!
Say it with me now - baby shower. It's the key to your salvation.
Meanwhile, don't stress, it's not good for either of you. Relax, breathe and let everyone else do the work. calm down real girl. just jitters. the hag is right, BABY SHOWER. write down everything you need to do, check it off as you go. can't sleep?? get organized.
You'll be just fine! You've got 8 weeks and it really is a long time. I do remember how scary it was to think that the number of weeks was down to a single digit.
I used the baby shower as a starting point, once I had a few things then it was easier from there on in. Get your Mum to take you shopping (she'll love it!)
This panic thing is normal. I guess that doesn't help much though.
((((hugs))))
I moved five weeks before Jade was born.
Up until then I didn't have a cot, nor a bassinette.
(Can't remember about the clothes and nappies and things, but I think I didn't have much).
Jade was two weeks early. We managed. In that three weeks I'd gotten a cot, and stripped it back and painted it. Got a bassinette. Got clothes, nappies. And it was fine! Whatever we didn't have we were given as gifts, when she was born. You have a whole eight weeks! That's two months!! sixty days!! Ages!!
Don't sweat the small stuff, Coralie. New clothes for the baby? If you're lucky, they might fit for a couple of weeks. Hospitals are usually pretty good about sending you home with "baby packs", formula, diapers, and the like. You won't be starting out empty handed. As for the sling thing, newborns don't normally fit in them very well, they slip through the leg holes. I, personally, wouldn't recommend one for at least a month or two after the baby is born.
don't freak out. there are things that you need to get ready, yes, but it doesn't have to be as complicated as people make it sound.
you want some nappies, some all in one sleepers and baby type toiletries. honest to god, a newborn does not need 'clothes' as such, so wait until she grows a bit bigger and actually does stuff other than sleeping before you buy anything cute.
and she can sleep in a box that has a pile of blankets in it if she has to. she won't know and she won't care. as long as it's soft and warm and you're nearby, she will be happy. not saying that you're going to put her in a box, but my point is that you needn't panic because she won't know or care about all the stuff you're supposed to have - all she wants is YOU AND THE FUNGUS. mummy and daddy. that's all she needs.
i'm going to make you up some of those all-in-one nappies this afternoon, ok
Hmmmm, I think this whole baby thing is going to be such a shock to you mate, I kow it was to me, and most Mums around.... btw.. it's not a crib, it's a COT in Australia... get organised for your own sanity! Read some books about what y ou need, eg, 6 singlets, 24 nappies plus a packof disposables, 2 bottles (yeah, breast is best but what if you cant?) cot, blanket (2), sheets (4) t-shirts, matinee jakets (3) long legging pants (5) etc, etc, be logival and SLOWLY work though the list.
car seat, pram or stoller, toys to play with, ring the Playgroup Association and find out where your nearest Playgroup is, the internet is fine, we obvioulsy all ove it, BUT you need face to face contact with similar mums in the same situation, to swap ideas, stories, help and advise with....good luck!
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Well, eight weeks is a long time (I guess, I have 0 experience), but only when you've got your priorities set straight. I would seriously reconsider the consultancy job, hold it back for a while till you're ready for that. You've got more important things to take care of now.
And remember, you're not in this alone, you don't have to do all by yourself.