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Monday, January 05, 2004
clumsy mummy - 06:58 AM
i just bumped riley's head on the doorframe to our bedroom as i was carrying him in while breastfeeding, to wake shroom up. fortunately it wasn't very hard & he didn't even seem to notice, but i always feel so bad when i accidentally hurt him.
honestly, the number of times i've made him do a face-plant as i put him on his play mat or on the bed on his tummy, or bumped his head on the arm of the nursing chair, or even the other day as i was cleaning him up during a nappy change & i pulled a little too hard on the remains of his foreskin & it separated a tiny bit, causing the tiniest spot of bleeding. most of these times, he's never complained once (not even when i hurt his tiny little willy), but i always feel so bad.
am i the only mum that's so clumsy (mostly caused by tiredness, although i will admit to being a tad clumsy anyway. shroom's toes can attest to that), or is it simply that other mums don't admit to accidentally hurting their babies as often as i do?
it sounds really bad, but it's not as though i hurt him three times a day. it's only maybe once every few days. i think there have only been two times when he's even noticed. one of them was when he threw himself backwards on my lap & bumped his head fairly hard on the arm of the chair. he cried then, but only for about five seconds. i can't remember the other time, but it was probably something similar.
so tell me .. surely i'm not the only one?
dave had a point
when i was little, i had enuf bumps on me.It's normal. I've whacked Hayden's head and legs into doorframes. Now that he's bigger when I'm carrying him sideways after a feed and putting him to bed it's easy to do! I've face planted him into his cot a few times, but he rarely seems to notice. It's only if he's tired and grizzly that it bothers him.
Anyway, he's now making up for it by being a bully of a baby!
It happens, don't feel bad. We've all stumbled and bumbled our way through it tired and dazed.
Besides, when he starts running around the place (soon enough!) he'll stay bloodied and bruised. It's enough to give a mum a heart attack.
it happens all the time but you just learn to live with it. as long as you know you're doing your best then it's realistic that these things happen. as even you said, shroom could attest to you being clumsy and i'm sure you probably accidentally hurt him on more than one occasion and vice-versa, but we don't have a freak out about that. why should it be any different with the baby?
Oh dear, every child gets bounced off something by their mum or dad. I once dropped my infant daughter - slippery little eel - upside down into the bath tub. She had a bump the size of an ostrich egg.
It's just part of the parent kid dynamic - try not to feel too bad about it.
regarding melanie's comment about his foreskin, i just edited the entry to say 'the remains of his foreskin'.
geez. poor kid's going to need therapy when he grows up & discovers there are whole conversations online about his foreskin, or lack thereof.
oh boy, he will really need help
if he ever see pictures of his mom in pink hair. ha ha ha
coralie you are a goo mom
never forget that
I'll just chime in here and agree, it happens to everyone!
My husband dropped James when he was 2 weeks old, straight off his chest where he was laying on the lounge and onto the wooden floor.
That's the worst thing that's happened to this kid (straight to the doctor - I was paranoid!) but I did poke him in the eye the other day.
It's a horrible feeling but they're so resilient! (They have to be...)
Hi Coralie, don't sweat it, my daughter Alia is about a month older than your Riley and she has been bumped into every doorframe in her world I reckon ... bedroom door, loungeroom door, front door, my Mum's house door etc etc. I always feel guilty, she either doesn't notice or laughs at me. Tough little buggers, babies
omg....you don't know me but I found this thread on
google because I dropped my 3.5 month daughter tonight.
I phoned the doc, she said it sounds fine, the babe
cried then nursed then back to sleep...gosh I feel
awful! So glad I found your posts to make me
feel like less of a shmuck.
~Rachel
gmail
com
we'll see as the reactive answers. but i don't feel that you are alone from what my mom tells me of her accidents wth me. don't worry, i know you are a good mom. just don't take these little bumps too harshly on yourself. kids are built tough just for these things.