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Friday, October 20, 2006 - (see all news for this day)
separated - 05:39 AM
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some of you might already know about this, since i've spoken to some of you via email already. most of my family already have an idea & all of shroom's family know also, so i can send it out into the world wide web.
shroom & i are separated. we don't have plans to get back together, but we're still on good terms, as you might have wondered since we just had a small family holiday in thailand. it's the first family holiday we've had & will be the last now, obviously.
originally, the only reason we came through thailand was because shroom was going there anyway & it's one of the routes to australia from bahrain. we thought it might be nice for shroom & smiley to be able to spend a bit of time together before he goes off into the wild blue yonder to do whatever he decides to do, so we made it for a few days instead of just an overnight stopover for smiley & i.
it's been going downhill for quite a while. the last four years has sucked quite a bit, in fact, but there have still been some good things amongst all the strife. i won't go into great detail, but it basically comes down to two things. i had a libido issue for quite a number of years (i.e. i had none) & then i became involved with someone else briefly. neither of us knew how to deal with those two issues to overcome them & so it's finally come to this. we tried counselling & various other ways to work through it, so we didn't decide to give up, just like that.
we're both happy to be moving on with our lives & we're both looking forward to the positive changes which we can now start to put into effect.
you might have had a clue, but when i've been talking of 'we' & 'our' when i've spoken of our move to australia & the new house etc, i was talking about smiley & i.
i'm excited to be independant (well, dependant on the government for income, but i'm so lucky to live in a country where they'll support a single stay-at-home mum) & making my own decisions about my life & what i'm doing day to day, so everything's good.
i have been & will continue seeing a counsellor regularly, which has been absoultely wonderful & very beneficial. i can't recommend the services of a good counsellor enough. she's been a lifeline & a great support, as have my friends who have known what's been going on for the last four years & beyond.
we are both starting new chapters in our lives. good luck to you. real girl. i know you'll make it just fine.
just wishing you good luck again on your latest journey :o)
The best of luck to all of you on this new journey. And well done for keeping things on good terms. Not many people who separate manage that. Hope to see you soon.
I'm sorry to hear that you're separated, Corri, but happy to hear you are feeling positive about starting this new chapter of your life. Kudos to both of you for keeping things amicable, that will make all the difference to Smiley. I hope that wide open road in front of you brings lots of joy and a few surprises to keep you on your toes!
coralie, when people separate i always feel bad about it, just for the sake of negative things make me feel bad.
but since you've made a big effort to cope with things and try to solve things, i trust you are making the best decision.
the main thing, i think, is making sure smiley doesn't suffer too much. luckily you are on good terms, so shroom will be able to be a dad. good lock!
sad to hear this
just get a good life
and keep on blogging, Corrie
You have a good head on your shoulders, Coralie, you are strong, smart, you will be just fine. Things change,life changes and sometimes to change is the healthiest thing one can do. I suspect you are already somewhat accustomed to bringing up Smiley by yourself. Know that you are in my thoughts, pretty girl.
Margo - Washington, D.C.
Thinking of you darling - love you lots,
Helly
Wow. Big news. (See what happens when I don't check in for a little while?)
Hope it goes smoothly for all of you!
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All the best with your new start ... if you need your friendly online counsellor ( i travel anywhere) dont forget Doctor Dennis ..